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Geez! Valentine’s day is less than a month away and you know what that means,
right?

Yep, the office is going to be a mess. Cupid’s arrow hits the mark and
people go la-la. Cupid misses and depression sets in. For some in the Media Guy’s
office, it could take months before the wounds heal. Passing by a Hallmark
store could be challenging and a simple rose bush sighting could cause nausea.
Take the plight of Camille from Graphics…
“It starts three days before; this jittery, anxious sensation. Then
on the twelve, the calendar calls to me like that little girl in the “Mama”movie. There’s no hiding it, V-Day only hours away. Will this be the third year
in row that Bob from Accounting misses my obvious flirtations and doesn’t send
flower, or a card or even think to ask me to a movie? Why do I need to be
validated? Why does this silly day set the course of love for the next eleven
point five months? Watching all the FTD deliveries endless arrive is like how I
felt after my fourth tequila at the Christmas party. I feel the fool”
…Or how about Jim from the Production Department?…
“Finding love in the office is nothing short of needing a
morphine-drip to end the pain of searching. You just hit rock bottom. Isn’t there a 12-step program for this insanity?
You can’t imagine how desperate I am to avoid this love nonsense here. I
mean, really…we have campaigns to launch, commercials to make and yoga classes
to get to at 7:00 P.M. on Tuesdays and Thursdays. What to do?
Well, the Media Guy wasn’t born yesterday. I got in touch with relationship
expert Ernest Quansah. Fear, stubbornness, ignorance, procrastination,
resignation – for singles or couples longing for love, these are among the
deadly sins, he points out. “These are the psychological traits which singles
and many couples use as excuses,” says Quansah, who is also the author of Do’s and Don’ts of Relationships
.
“I hear it all the time; singles or married couples say they’re not rich
enough, or they need to lose weight, or they just don’t think they’ll find what
they want. But I say nothing is perfect, and if you think that you’ll only be
good enough when you’ve lost five pounds, or have a nice car or a bigger house,
then you will never be ‘good enough.’”
Quansah found that all respondents in his recent survey reported that they
still believe in lasting love, and if there was a way to learn to find true
love, they would try it. Singles are looking for relationship success as much
as committed or married couples, he says.
While self-improvement is important, singles and couples should not use
excuses to put off what could be a meaningful, lasting relationship says
Quansah, who takes a holistic approach to relationships. 
Just as people need a plan in order to give themselves a chance with other New
Year’s resolutions, such as weight loss or a career move, so too is the case
with finding  permanent love. Quansah says singles and couples need to
answer six questions while pursuing love and true happiness:
  • What is my goal? For each
    question, jot down what you are really looking for. Are you looking for a lifelong partner,
    just a date on Valentine’s Day, or for your marriage to work? Many “serial
    daters” and “twice married men and women” claim they want the real thing;
    however, often their behavior indicates the opposite. Singles and couples must
    be honest with what is in their hearts, Quansah declares.
  • What am I doing to achieve my
    goal?
    Striking a balance is important. Doing too much, like spending a lot of
    money on a new look or being too negative, can be relationship killers because
    they are not permanent solutions and this makes achieving your goal difficult.
    If you’re act like yourself, you’ll be more comfortable and self-confident –
    and those are attractive qualities! Remember who you are and what you love, but
    don’t be inflexible; love and relationship success are often about compromise.
    Taking note of what you have and haven’t done, and evaluating the effectiveness
    of those strategies, are the key to dating, relationship, and marriage success.
  • What might prevent me from
    achieving my goal?
    Fault finding in potential love interest or in a marriage, for example,
    can hinder the flow of success. Another obstacle may be placing artificial
    contingencies on your love connection, like comparing yourself to others, or
    unintentionally putting too much strain on your marriage. An objective, calm,
    and rational approach can help you map a course for meeting the man or woman of
    your dreams and achieving love relationship success.
  • What methods have not worked for
    me?

    Mistakes are to be expected – nobody’s perfect. But they should only be
    acceptable as long as you’ve learned something from them. Look back and do a
    review. If you have approached dating or relationship success in ways that keep
    failing, it is time to change!
  • What methods have worked for me? Everybody has
    qualities that make them good at some things and not so great in other areas.
    Focus on your strengths; if you have used methods that brought you success in dating
    or in your marriage, you should use those methods because they will yield
    result. But do not be afraid to test the waters with new ideas.
  • What will it feel like when I
    succeed?
    If you cannot envision the taste of success, you may be less motivated to
    go the extra mile for true love. Think about how nice it would feel to have
    meaningful companionship, bring someone home to meet the family, and maybe even
    start a family of your own. 

So hopefully Jim, Camille and the rest of the Media Guy’s staff has made
Quansah their new best friend and we can get that new DirectTV ad out the door
in time for the Super Bowl.

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